For many in the Chinese-speaking community, the idea of neurodiversity, including autism and ADHD, can be misunderstood. Our hero Wendy shares her story from confusion and fear to understanding and empowerment, offering hope and strength to those who may be walking a similar path.
Wendy’s story begins like many others—she didn’t know what autism or ADHD really meant. “The first time I heard about autism, I thought that it meant psychotic. That I should stay away from these people.” This reaction wasn’t out of malice, but rather a reflection of how autism is often seen in some parts of the Chinese-speaking community. There isn’t much awareness, and when it’s talked about, it can be clouded with fear or shame.
A Life-Changing Diagnosis
Wendy’s perspective changed when she moved to the UK, where she finally learned more about neurodiversity and was diagnosed with ADHD. This moment was overwhelming for her. “As soon as I found out, I burst into tears.”
For Wendy, the diagnosis explained many things about her life and her struggles. However, growing up in a culture that wasn’t open to talking about mental health or neurodivergence made it hard for her to accept at first.
In Chinese culture, Wendy explains, “people would not accept that your child is autistic.” There can be a stigma attached to these diagnoses, and families may feel shame or guilt, worrying about what others will think. For Wendy, this cultural barrier made it difficult to come to terms with her diagnosis. It’s a challenge faced by many Chinese families—whether in the UK or back home—where there’s pressure to hide anything that’s seen as “different” or “wrong.”
But Wendy’s story is not just one of challenges—it’s about growth, strength, and hope.
A New Perspective: Focus on Strengths
A turning point came when Wendy met Hazel, the founder of CACIC who helped her shift her mindset. Hazel encouraged Wendy to focus on her strengths instead of dwelling on her perceived weaknesses.
“Hazel changed my life. She changed my mindset. I have no need to blame myself anymore, but I focus on my strengths rather than my weaknesses.”
This new way of thinking gave Wendy the confidence to embrace her neurodivergence. She began to see her brain not as something broken, but as something different—and that difference gave her unique abilities. Wendy now uses tools and strategies that help her thrive at work and in her daily life. Sticky notes, notebooks, and allowing herself to fidget or mimic actions when reading are all small changes that have made a big difference. “A diagnosis of ADHD definitely has helped me to better understand how my brain works,” she shares.
The Healing Power of Nature and Movement
Along with practical tools, Wendy discovered the importance of taking care of her mental health. She turned to activities that helped her feel connected to the world and herself, like mountain biking, dancing, and spending time in nature. “I do more things like mountain biking, dancing, and throwing myself into nature to help me build up strong mental health.” For Wendy, these activities aren’t just hobbies—they’re a way to keep her mind and body balanced, especially when the world feels overwhelming.
Many neurodivergent individuals find comfort in routines or activities that engage their senses, and for Wendy, nature has become a vital part of her self-care. It’s a reminder that even in the hustle and bustle of life, taking time to slow down and reconnect with the environment around us can have a profound effect on our well-being.
Breaking the Stigma
Wendy’s journey highlights the need for greater understanding and acceptance of neurodiversity within the Chinese-speaking community. While there is still stigma surrounding autism and ADHD, her story shows that with the right support and mindset, neurodivergent individuals can thrive. Wendy hopes her story will inspire others, especially those who may be struggling to accept their diagnosis or who fear how their community will react.
It’s important to recognise that autism and ADHD are not diseases—they are different ways of thinking and experiencing the world. By focusing on strengths, like Wendy has done, neurodivergent individuals can live full and rewarding lives. For families, friends, and communities, learning more about these conditions and embracing them with open minds is the first step in creating a supportive environment for everyone.
Tools for Thriving
Wendy’s story also offers practical advice for others with ADHD or similar conditions. Simple tools like sticky notes or notebooks might seem small, but they can make a big difference in managing tasks and staying organised. Allowing yourself to fidget or move while reading or studying can also be helpful, as it helps the brain focus and absorb information in a way that works for you.
Wendy has also learned the value of self-care through physical activity. For her, activities like mountain biking or dancing not only keep her body healthy but also help maintain her mental balance. These strategies can be useful for anyone, but they’re especially important for neurodivergent individuals who may need extra ways to manage stress and stay centred.
Embracing Neurodiversity
Wendy’s story is a powerful reminder that neurodivergent individuals are not broken—they are simply different. And in that difference, there is strength. Her journey from confusion to empowerment shows that with the right support, tools, and mindset, anyone can find their path to success.
By sharing Wendy’s story, we hope to encourage more open conversations about neurodiversity within the Chinese-speaking community. It’s time to break the stigma and create a world where everyone, regardless of how their brain works, is accepted and supported.
If you or someone you know is struggling with a diagnosis, remember Wendy’s words: “I have no need to blame myself anymore, but I put focus on my strength.” Acceptance starts with understanding, and by learning more about neurodiversity, we can all help create a more inclusive and supportive community.